Talking Hearing Loss

Let’s face it: talking about hearing loss can feel like stepping into a minefield of emotions. It’s personal, sensitive, and let’s be honest—a little awkward. But if someone you love is missing out on conversations, turning up the TV to stadium-level volumes, or pretending they just love saying “What?” 15 times in a row, it might be time to broach the subject.

Before you grab a megaphone and shout, “YOU NEED HEARING AIDS!” (Pro tip: don’t), let’s explore some kinder, gentler, more warm & fuzzy and effective ways to have “that talk”.

1. Find the Right Moment (Hint: Not During a Family Argument)

Timing is everything. Resist the urge to address hearing loss in the heat of the moment—like after they’ve misheard you for the tenth time during dinner. Instead, create a relaxed atmosphere, perhaps over a cup of coffee or during a quiet walk.

Think of it as less of a “Let’s fix this now!” intervention and more of a “Let’s chat while I casually pass you a scone” situation.

2. Channel Your Inner Keanu Reeves

When you finally bring it up, leave the frustration at the door. Telling someone they need their hearing checked while rolling your eyes is a one-way ticket to nowhere.

Instead, go for a softer approach, like: “I’ve noticed it’s been harder for you to catch what people are saying, and I’m worried you might be missing out. How can I help?”

Translation: love and kindness = good; passive-aggressive shouting = bad.

3. Remember, They Probably Know Already

Spoiler alert: Many people with hearing loss are very aware of it or at least suspecting it themselves. It’s not like they’re thinking, “Wow, everyone has started simultaneously mumbling lately.”

Rather than ambushing them with your observations, ease in with empathy. For example: “I noticed you’ve been turning the TV up louder than usual. Is it getting harder to hear?” This way, you’re pointing it out without making them feel like you’ve been secretly keeping a tally.

4. Put Yourself in Their Shoes

Hearing loss comes with its fair share of insecurities. Nobody wants to feel old, left out, or judged. When they open up about their worries (e.g., “I don’t want to wear hearing aids—they make me look ancient!”), fight the urge to jump in with counterarguments.

Instead, try this magical sentence: “I can see why you’d feel that way.” It’s validating, it’s empathetic, and it doesn’t immediately make them regret sharing. Kudos to you for being super supportive!!

5. Be Their Cheerleader (Not Their Drill Sergeant)

The first step is the hardest, so offer to go to that audiologist appointment with them. Be their notetaker, question-asker, and general morale booster. In other words, have their back.

Your willingness to support them can make all the difference between taking action and avoiding it indefinitely. Remember: this is a journey, not a race, so buckle up for the long haul.

Love Is Louder Than Hearing Loss

Navigating this conversation with a loved one doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. With the right mix of compassion, patience, and good humor, you can help them take the first steps toward better hearing—and maybe even save your own sanity in the process.

And if all else fails, just remind them: “The sooner you hear better, the sooner you’ll stop missing out on my amazing jokes!” That’s a win-win for everyone.